Abuse,  Covid19,  Emotional Healing,  Healing

Explaining Our Current State Of Divide – The Empath Vs. Narcissist Spectrum during COVID-19

I am always looking at the big picture and asking why. What is the spiritual message? What is the point?
I wanted to say that the manner in which we are handling the unrest in our country, is a mirror of whom we are. But mirror talk at this point seems councily, or socially accepted, even a bit woo woo. What we are seeing happening in our country (the USA anyway) is not a reflection of who we are, it is an out and out display of who we are. /God/source/you/ have created the perfect platform to let your inner you be brought into the light.
I see our society divided into two camps – narcissists and empaths. We have seen this played out on a micro-scale, mostly in our homes and workplaces as witnessed in abusive and toxic relationships. Now we see it full-blown on social media, in the news, and in our politics.
Stick with me. Don’t judge. Don’t categorize yourself or others. Just listen for a moment.
Empaths tend to see the big picture and understand how the actions of 1 affect the whole. That is because when someone else is in pain, they feel the same pain. So it only makes sense that the empaths would agree that doing things like wearing a mask, social distancing, and washing your hands makes perfectly good sense.  Quarantines and lockdowns are good for the country because these actions will save lives.  As does Black Lives Matter, universal health care, and even recognizing climate change if you want to go big.
Narcissists, on the other hand, tend to see things from a 1 person perspective, and they are always right. There is no grey area, just black and white, and they are so strong in their convictions, that they will never be swayed another way. People on this side of the spectrum are going to lean into personal rights (you can’t make me wear a mask), the economy is more important than peoples lives, I will go out where ever and whenever I want to, no ones life is more important than my own (all lives matter, I am not a racist), If I can’t get health care, neither can you, and I have a right to drive my car and therefore climate change is a hoax.
Most people will not fall firmly onto one side or the other. We all probably have both narcissistic and empathic capabilities. (Unless someone has been diagnosed with NPD, then they are just narcissists). So I think that we can, for discussion sake, say we have a spectrum here, and most will tend to lean to one side of the spectrum or the other.
When we look at social media posts, look at how they make you feel. I have heard a lot of people talking about the energy on social media, some are very confused, and some innately know they are right and everyone else is wrong.
If you are feeling weird or disturbing energies, I think you lean more towards the empathetic side. You are indeed feeling -literally feeling- all of the conflict, and discord, and fright of every being. You are probably feeling dismayed, and even abused. You are feeling the grief of the world right now, and it is heavy…
The opposite feelings are more about individual rights being more important than those of the whole. These people also feel very threatened and scared. What if their way of life or livelihood is taken away from them. Being forced to do something that you feel is wrong is incredibly scary.   They are in fight mode.
So we have taken the co-dependent relationship between the empath and the narcissist out of the house or workplace – where it is horrible, but hidden, and into the open. We are now seeing this being played out in full force and in all it’s glory and horror.  It is on social media, in our politics, in protests, in our economy and local businesses.
Narcissists need empaths for fuel.  Empaths feel fulfilled by trying to change narcissistic behaviors.  It is often a symbiotic relationship that destroys everyone involved.
I have don’t answers or great advice.  I just wanted to call a spade a spade, and offer an explanation of what I see is happening, and why you may be feeling the way you are.
As someone who helps people deal with trauma, especially from abuse, I feel it is important to bring this up.  If you need help, let me know.

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